Crave Vesper Mini Review: The Discreet Vibrator
“I really like the ones where the internal and external parts can be controlled separately,” sex writer and sex toy reviewer Amy Norton says. This sleek U-shaped vibrator is a game-changer for shared pleasure, according to our panel. The longer arm can be inserted into the vagina and used to stimulate both the G-spot and penis , while the outer arm vibrates against the clitoris. It has a motor at each end and nine increasingly powerful settings – from a gentle murmur to deep rumbling vibrations – for heightened pleasure during intercourse. The lightweight design and travel pouch make it a worthy companion for holidays, and it can be used in the bath or shower. The battery life (one hour) isn’t the longest, but this wouldn’t put our panel off using it time and time again.
In 200 AD, doctors prescribed female genital massage as a form of treatment for hysteria (ugh, don’t get me started). But in what was one of the least surprising moves of all time, they complained that the method was « too labor intensive » and « messy » and put an end to it. The hand crank—the earliest constructed sex toy—came along in 1890, and it was followed by a number of similar inventions, like 1904’s gas-powered « Pneumatic Detwiller » and 1920’s porn-inspired « Polar Cub Electric. »
The soft Kanuka handcuffs come with a control cord and are perfect for “low-cutting” (that’s in-the-know speak for low friction) exploration, while the steel-capped rope allows couples to explore impact play. If you and/or your partner only have experience with clitoral orgasms, you might want to explore Lelo’s weighted vaginal beads, also known as Ben Wa balls. Who says rose petals should only be sprinkled romantically across your bed? The compact vibrator has seven suction settings and is waterproof, in case you want to use it in the shower or tub. Available in red or purple, it’s so pretty that you might want to leave it on your nightstand as some sassy home decor instead of tucking it away in a drawer. The Elemi’s quiet “gentle touch” vibration mode — one of 10 options — helps with the discretion factor.
Rechargeable sex toys are better for the environment and your pocket, but bear in mind that you will have to wait for your toy to charge before use. This aesthetically pleasing two-in-one toy, which features a vibrating dildo and an external stimulator, was a big hit with testers. They said it was extremely straightforward to use and would make a great starter toy for couples who are new to sex toys.
The idea is that you can put it in between your labia so it has direct access to your clitoris, use its tiny arms to keep it there, then continue sans hands. For $105, it’s supposed to make that elusive penis-in-vagina orgasm more attainable without getting in the way of any actual sex-having. While she was having great partnered sex, many of her peers were not. She has since written two more books about sexual pleasure for older adults and has reviewed over 100 sex toys from the senior perspective.
“It gave me the most intense orgasms I’ve ever experienced,” said one satisfied tester. Some brands may note that their toys are made from “body-safe” materials. All medical-grade silicone is also body-safe—but the reverse isn’t always true. To find the best wand vibrators, SELF contributors pulled on their combined nearly three decades of experience testing and reviewing sex toys. We also consulted 10 experts and asked them to share their tried-and-true recommendations. The final list includes high-quality, top-rated wand vibrators across different sizes, price points, and intensities.
While some customers find it worth the purchase, others consider it a complete waste of money. The functionality receives mixed reviews, with several customers reporting that it stops working. The powerful vibrations of this toy shouldn’t be slept on, but they can be laid on (quite literally). To use the Dew Drop, lie down on your bed or sit in comfy chair, place the device on the desired area (whether it’s your clitoris, nipples or elsewhere) and let the toy work its magic – it couldn’t be easier. In fact, it was designed especially for beginners, and testers confirmed it was a breeze to use vibrator, with just two simple buttons to control the power and intensity.
Those who prefer direct pressure should opt for a pinpoint or bullet vibrator, while others may like more diffused vibrations that spread across the vulva, which can be achieved by most wand vibes, grinding toys, and palm vibes. If receiving oral sex is your favorite way to get off, consider a clit suction toy or oral sex stimulator. Our best suction toy and our highest scoring vibrator overall, the Next uses innovative 3D pleasure air technology to produce slow, pulsating sensations our testers loved.
While companies seem to invent interesting new vibrator shapes every year, there are a few key vibrator categories that are classics for a reason—why reinvent the wheel (or the wand)? We like that the vibrations feel stronger and more rumbly when compared with our other Magic Wand picks’, and that this new version is easier to clean (because it can be run under a faucet). At the end of this experiment, we discovered that the lube had an effect on every single toy.
If you need (or want) a lot of stimulation to get off, a great wand is your best bet, whether it’s rechargeable or plugs into the wall. Bianca Alba, MPH, is a nonbinary sexual-health educator, consultant, and journalist based in Chicago. Bianca was formerly managing editor of a Kinsey Institute blog and has presented academic research on transgender-youth health advocacy, using sex toys as therapeutic tools in clinical practice, and menstrual biohacking. She/they are passionate about normalizing healthy discussions of sexuality in everyday life. The Evolved Tongue Tied is our favorite of the “tongue” vibrators we’ve tested. While they’re not as pinpointed as those from the Lelo Dot, we did find that this vibrator’s flickering tongue (measuring about 1 inch long and 0.25 inches wide at the tip) offers powerful, focused sensations.